MsJudi wrote: 

Thank you Judi.  I cared for my mom when she was battling cancer. I just kept thinking "I sure don't want my kids to have to do this for me..."   It wasn't pretty most of the time. 

 lily34 wrote: 
Thanks, lil.

 BlueHeronDruid wrote: 
I don't know why your message borked and wouldn't show up, above, but I loved it.

 lily34 wrote: 

I, too, have a living will.  I've put the task off on my sister who is of the same mind as I am.  Well, only really, really smart in math. 

 JustJanis wrote: 
Please don't go... this is my little thread and I think those of us who are or have suffered through this need a quiet space to vent, cry, laugh and talk. Don't leave, ok?

 Alexandra wrote: 
This is us, too.

Not to put to blunt a spin on things, greg and i are fucking terrified of what we're going to be told when we walk in there tomorrow. How can it possibly be good news, right?

 JustJanis wrote: 
What she said...

 BlueHeronDruid wrote: 
A fine but difficult thing to do for someone you love.

 lily34 wrote: 
Mine have all that as well.  Mom recently made arrangements for their funerals and it seems that's all she can talk about lately.  So it's a little that right now.

 JustJanis wrote: 
I've had you as a guest. And I've seen the pictures you've made them pose for over the years. That's enough.
 
Also I should clarify: I did not help my mother end her life. I helped her to be comfortable in her own, natural death process.

 JustJanis wrote: 
i can only imagine you to be correct about your assessment.

my mom and dad have wills, and living wills. i know exactly what is expected of me for them. it's comforting. it used to be morbid, but it's comforting. 

 JustJanis wrote: 
 how was the ball game?

 BlueHeronDruid wrote: 

You've met them?

 MsJudi wrote: 
i didn't see this until now. 
i'll be thinking of you all  

 BlueHeronDruid wrote: 
i can attest to that. you did it all exactly as you should have.

 BlueHeronDruid wrote: 
that's exactly what they'd do, and that she'd expect!!

 Alexandra wrote: 
Fixed. Also, Janis's kids? They'll probably tell her they're going to use a plastic bag over her head. After they've farted into it repeatedly.

Oh yes I did say that!

 BlueHeronDruid wrote: 
I've changed my post since you posted......I was recalling a part of my grandmother's history—-totally unrelated to what Janis said. I made sure to let her know. Every situation's different....and I totally got her sense of humor. Anyone who's spent time with her knows.

 Alexandra wrote:
My mom took great delight in her terminal cancer diagnosis, as you might imagine. All she'd ever wanted was to be with Dad from the moment he passed away. Shifting my focus from helping Mom live with dignity to helping her die with dignity was a huge conflict every day. But asking her to live another day with her dementia would have been cruel. I still hurt from that dilemma, but I know I did exactly what she wanted. So I only have to square it with myself. Me and Mom - we're good.

 

 bokey wrote: 

Well, the fact I'm NOT there and my kids have the same twisted take on life as I do, as well as wicked senses of humor, know when I'm serious or not.

Sorry, I 'm getting out of this thread now.  Good-bye.