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JustJanis

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Location: The Pacific Northwest Baby!!!!
Gender: Female


Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:16pm

 MsJudi wrote:

Please don't go... this is my little thread and I think those of us who are or have suffered through this need a quiet space to vent, cry, laugh and talk. Don't leave, ok?
 

Thank you Judi.  I cared for my mom when she was battling cancer. I just kept thinking "I sure don't want my kids to have to do this for me..."   It wasn't pretty most of the time. 
MsJudi

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:16pm

 lily34 wrote:

i didn't see this until now. 
i'll be thinking of you all  

 
Thanks, lil. {#Hug}
MsJudi

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:15pm

 BlueHeronDruid wrote:


 
I don't know why your message borked and wouldn't show up, above, but I loved it.

JustJanis

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:14pm

 lily34 wrote:

i can only imagine you to be correct about your assessment.

my mom and dad have wills, and living wills. i know exactly what is expected of me for them. it's comforting. it used to be morbid, but it's comforting. 

 

I, too, have a living will.  I've put the task off on my sister who is of the same mind as I am.  Well, only really, really smart in math. 
MsJudi

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:14pm

 JustJanis wrote:


Well, the fact I'm NOT there and my kids have the same twisted take on life as I do, as well as wicked senses of humor, know when I'm serious or not.

Sorry, I 'm getting out of this thread now.  Good-bye. 

 
Please don't go... this is my little thread and I think those of us who are or have suffered through this need a quiet space to vent, cry, laugh and talk. Don't leave, ok?

MsJudi

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:13pm

 Alexandra wrote:
And here's the thing about dementia (no matter what degree someone has it)....

Take the usual parts of a person's personality that was ALWAYS a PITA, and magnify it 5000x.  

GAH x 5000!!!

 
This is us, too.

Not to put to blunt a spin on things, greg and i are fucking terrified of what we're going to be told when we walk in there tomorrow. How can it possibly be good news, right?

MsJudi

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:10pm

 JustJanis wrote:


Want me to come clean your house for you??

If the day comes where my kids have to change my diapers, that's the day they have permission to use the big pillow on me...

 
What she said... {#Yes}

winter

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Location: in exile, as always
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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:08pm

 BlueHeronDruid wrote:

I've had you as a guest. And I've seen the pictures you've made them pose for over the years. That's enough.
 
Also I should clarify: I did not help my mother end her life. I helped her to be comfortable in her own, natural death process.
 
A fine but difficult thing to do for someone you love.

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:08pm

 lily34 wrote:

i can only imagine you to be correct about your assessment.

my mom and dad have wills, and living wills. i know exactly what is expected of me for them. it's comforting. it used to be morbid, but it's comforting. 
 
Mine have all that as well.  Mom recently made arrangements for their funerals and it seems that's all she can talk about lately.  So it's a little that right now.
BlueHeronDruid

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:06pm

 JustJanis wrote:


You've met them?

 
I've had you as a guest. And I've seen the pictures you've made them pose for over the years. That's enough.
 
Also I should clarify: I did not help my mother end her life. I helped her to be comfortable in her own, natural death process.

lily34

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Location: GTFO
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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:05pm

 JustJanis wrote:


You've met them?
 
i can only imagine you to be correct about your assessment.

my mom and dad have wills, and living wills. i know exactly what is expected of me for them. it's comforting. it used to be morbid, but it's comforting. 
Red_Dragon

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:05pm

 JustJanis wrote:


You've met them?
 
 how was the ball game?
JustJanis

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:03pm

 BlueHeronDruid wrote:

Fixed. Also, Janis's kids? They'll probably tell her they're going to use a plastic bag over her head. After they've farted into it repeatedly.

Oh yes I did say that!

 

You've met them?
lily34

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 6:01pm

 MsJudi wrote:
Ok, so the call just came. We've been asked to meet management at their office at 9 am tomorrow morning. No clue what's going to happen. {#Meditate}
 
i didn't see this until now. 
i'll be thinking of you all  
lily34

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 5:59pm

 BlueHeronDruid wrote:


 
i can attest to that. you did it all exactly as you should have.
lily34

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 5:58pm

 BlueHeronDruid wrote:

Fixed. Also, Janis's kids? They'll probably tell her they're going to use a plastic bag over her head. After they've farted into it repeatedly.

Oh yes I did say that!

 
that's exactly what they'd do, and that she'd expect!!
BlueHeronDruid

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 5:56pm

 Alexandra wrote:

I've changed my post since you posted......I was recalling a part of my grandmother's history—-totally unrelated to what Janis said. I made sure to let her know. Every situation's different....and I totally got her sense of humor. Anyone who's spent time with her knows. {#Yes}

 
Fixed. Also, Janis's kids? They'll probably tell her they're going to use a plastic bag over her head. After they've farted into it repeatedly.

Oh yes I did say that!


Alexandra

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 5:54pm

 BlueHeronDruid wrote:


 
I've changed my post since you posted......I was recalling a part of my grandmother's history—-totally unrelated to what Janis said. I made sure to let her know. Every situation's different....and I totally got her sense of humor. Anyone who's spent time with her knows. {#Yes}
BlueHeronDruid

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 5:49pm

 Alexandra wrote:
Right. Sometimes (unless they all share the same sense of humor) When my grandmother was a young mother, her father—who was dying of cancer and suffering greatly—begged her to take his gun and shoot him. It did a number on her.

My mom took great delight in her terminal cancer diagnosis, as you might imagine. All she'd ever wanted was to be with Dad from the moment he passed away. Shifting my focus from helping Mom live with dignity to helping her die with dignity was a huge conflict every day. But asking her to live another day with her dementia would have been cruel. I still hurt from that dilemma, but I know I did exactly what she wanted. So I only have to square it with myself. Me and Mom - we're good.

 


JustJanis

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Posted: Aug 30, 2011 - 5:44pm

 bokey wrote:

A parent telling their child that isn't funny at all, and it is psychologically devastating on top of all the other stress.
 

Well, the fact I'm NOT there and my kids have the same twisted take on life as I do, as well as wicked senses of humor, know when I'm serious or not.

Sorry, I 'm getting out of this thread now.  Good-bye. 
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