it's the holidays

where's the love, the forgiveness and the ceremonial fruit cack?

 meower wrote:

 
 

Thank you for this, Meowie.

 

This "History Repeating" song sure has a lot of impact today.

I woke up this morning looking for someone to blame. Someone to hate. Someone who I could make the single target of my fear about the officers killed in Dallas and what happened to Alton Sterling and Philando Castile. It was such a desperate feeling to want to discharge the uncertainty and scarcity. Then it dawned on me that this is the exact drive that fueled what's happening right now.

Instead of feeling hurt we act out our hurt. Rather than acknowledging our pain, we inflict it on others. Neither hate nor blame will lead to the justice and peace that we all want - it will only move us further apart. But we can't forget that hate and blame are seductive. Anger is easier than grief. Blame is easier than real accountability. When we choose instant relief in the form of rage, we're in many ways choosing permanent grief for the world.

Brene Brown

 

This is pretty close to how I'm feeling. Exactly how I woke up feeling today. Ive been crying all morning and couldn't really put my finger on why. I think I've been so angry lately about all the hate and it was fueling my own hatred of people who think differently from me and who I blame for the current state of affairs. The truth is, under that hate was/is incredible sadness. My hate broke this morning, when I heard about all of the police who continued to do their jobs as shots were being fired at them. The sadness and hopelessness and helplessness was all that was left.

 

 

 edieraye wrote: 
Wow.

Okay, I just got up. No surprise, right?

This explains a lot for me. But I really wish I could get myself to another pattern. I've got the sleeping late part down perfectly. But it would be nice to have a little more "day" in my day.
Edit: Crap. I'm almost late for an appointment.

 PoundPuppy wrote: 



I tried using it as justification for my lifestyle choices - don't think A bought it.

 edieraye wrote: 
My employer doesn't give a sh*t whether I'm a night owl or an early riser....too bad!!

 Welly wrote: 
Well yeah, not the way YOU make it...

 edieraye wrote: 
Just as I've long suspected ......sleeping until noon is GOOD for you. 

 kysmet wrote: 

Score one for slugabeds
Night owls stay more alert, longer, than people who get up at the crack of dawn, a new study has found. Previous research has shown that people are genetically hard-wired to prefer either going to bed early and getting up at around dawn, or staying up late and waking in mid-morning. When Belgian researchers tested groups of early and late risers at different times of the day, they found no difference in their ability to focus and react 90 minutes after they woke up. By 101/2 hours after a subject woke up (afternoon for the earlies, evening for the owls), late risers performed significantly better. In early risers, the internal drive to go back to sleep-which scientists call "sleep pressure"-builds up more quickly, dulling their response times and, presumably, their productivity as the day wears on. Sleep expert David Dinges tells Science that the study has "real-world consequences." Identifying the early birds and night owls on any given job, he says, can help employers figure out when workers are most productive and most liable to make mistakes and have accidents.
 - from this week's issue of The Week

I love staying up late
I hate having to wake up early

 cookinlover wrote: 
I'm at a safe distance - knock yourself out.

 woozurbuddy wrote: 
Thanks for that great 4 alarm chili last night, woozie...  want me to give it back?

I love my cat
I hate his litterbox

I love to get mail
I hate when it's bills

I love Nutty Bars
I hate gaining weight

I love Popeyes Chicken
I hate the neighborhood hat I have to go to for it.

I love riding my motorcycle
I hate getting stuck behind charter members of The Anti-Destination League

I love Formula One
I hate Bernie Ecclestone

I love shoveling snow
I hate mowing the yard.

katzendogs wrote:
yeah, i was thinking the same thing....

 katzendogs wrote: 
My little brain can be quite random.  Deal with it.

 oldslabsides wrote: 
Your order of importance um...

I love ferrets
I hate their maintenance requirements

I love my son
I hate the way his mother treats him

I love my wife
I hate that she is so far away

... that's all for now

rmgman wrote:
  steeeeeeenky!

I love my cat.

But, I HATE wet cat food! Bleeeccckk!       

 JrzyTmata wrote: